diff --git a/src/Avalonia.Controls/Utils/SelectedItemsSync.cs b/src/Avalonia.Controls/Utils/SelectedItemsSync.cs
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+using System;
+using System.Collections;
+using System.Collections.Specialized;
+using System.Linq;
+using Avalonia.Collections;
+
+#nullable enable
+
+namespace Avalonia.Controls.Utils
+{
+    /// <summary>
+    /// Synchronizes an <see cref="ISelectionModel"/> with a list of SelectedItems.
+    /// </summary>
+    internal class SelectedItemsSync
+    {
+        private IList? _items;
+        private bool _updatingItems;
+        private bool _updatingModel;
+
+        public SelectedItemsSync(ISelectionModel model)
+        {
+            Model = model;
+        }
+
+        public ISelectionModel Model { get; private set; }
+
+        public IList GetOrCreateItems()
+        {
+            if (_items == null)
+            {
+                var items = new AvaloniaList<object>(Model.SelectedItems);
+                items.CollectionChanged += ItemsCollectionChanged;
+                Model.SelectionChanged += SelectionModelSelectionChanged;
+                _items = items;
+            }
+
+            return _items;
+        }
+
+        public void SetItems(IList items)
+        {
+            items = items ?? throw new ArgumentNullException(nameof(items));
+
+            if (items.IsFixedSize)
+            {
+                throw new NotSupportedException(
+                    "Cannot assign fixed size selection to SelectedItems.");
+            }
+
+            if (_items is INotifyCollectionChanged incc)
+            {
+                incc.CollectionChanged -= ItemsCollectionChanged;
+            }
+
+            if (_items == null)
+            {
+                Model.SelectionChanged += SelectionModelSelectionChanged;
+            }
+
+            try
+            {
+                _updatingModel = true;
+                _items = items;
+
+                using (Model.Update())
+                {
+                    Model.ClearSelection();
+                    Add(items);
+                }
+
+                if (_items is INotifyCollectionChanged incc2)
+                {
+                    incc2.CollectionChanged += ItemsCollectionChanged;
+                }
+            }
+            finally
+            {
+                _updatingModel = false;
+            }
+        }
+
+        public void SetModel(ISelectionModel model)
+        {
+            model = model ?? throw new ArgumentNullException(nameof(model));
+
+            if (_items != null)
+            {
+                Model.SelectionChanged -= SelectionModelSelectionChanged;
+                Model = model;
+                Model.SelectionChanged += SelectionModelSelectionChanged;
+
+                try
+                {
+                    _updatingItems = true;
+                    _items.Clear();
+
+                    foreach (var i in model.SelectedItems)
+                    {
+                        _items.Add(i);
+                    }
+                }
+                finally
+                {
+                    _updatingItems = false;
+                }
+            }
+        }
+
+        private void ItemsCollectionChanged(object sender, NotifyCollectionChangedEventArgs e)
+        {
+            if (_updatingItems)
+            {
+                return;
+            }
+
+            if (_items == null)
+            {
+                throw new AvaloniaInternalException("CollectionChanged raised but we don't have items.");
+            }
+
+            void Remove()
+            {
+                foreach (var i in e.OldItems)
+                {
+                    var index = IndexOf(Model.Source, i);
+
+                    if (index != -1)
+                    {
+                        Model.Deselect(index);
+                    }
+                }
+            }
+
+            try
+            {
+                using var operation = Model.Update();
+
+                _updatingModel = true;
+
+                switch (e.Action)
+                {
+                    case NotifyCollectionChangedAction.Add:
+                        Add(e.NewItems);
+                        break;
+                    case NotifyCollectionChangedAction.Remove:
+                        Remove();
+                        break;
+                    case NotifyCollectionChangedAction.Replace:
+                        Remove();
+                        Add(e.NewItems);
+                        break;
+                    case NotifyCollectionChangedAction.Reset:
+                        Model.ClearSelection();
+                        Add(_items);
+                        break;
+                }
+            }
+            finally
+            {
+                _updatingModel = false;
+            }
+        }
+
+        private void Add(IList newItems)
+        {
+            foreach (var i in newItems)
+            {
+                var index = IndexOf(Model.Source, i);
+
+                if (index != -1)
+                {
+                    Model.Select(index);
+                }
+            }
+        }
+
+        private void SelectionModelSelectionChanged(object sender, SelectionModelSelectionChangedEventArgs e)
+        {
+            if (_updatingModel)
+            {
+                return;
+            }
+
+            if (_items == null)
+            {
+                throw new AvaloniaInternalException("SelectionModelChanged raised but we don't have items.");
+            }
+
+            try
+            {
+                var deselected = e.DeselectedItems.ToList();
+                var selected = e.SelectedItems.ToList();
+
+                _updatingItems = true;
+
+                foreach (var i in deselected)
+                {
+                    _items.Remove(i);
+                }
+
+                foreach (var i in selected)
+                {
+                    _items.Add(i);
+                }
+            }
+            finally
+            {
+                _updatingItems = false;
+            }
+        }
+
+        private static int IndexOf(object source, object item)
+        {
+            if (source is IList l)
+            {
+                return l.IndexOf(item);
+            }
+            else if (source is ItemsSourceView v)
+            {
+                return v.IndexOf(item);
+            }
+
+            return -1;
+        }
+    }
+}
diff --git a/tests/Avalonia.Controls.UnitTests/Utils/SelectedItemsSyncTests.cs b/tests/Avalonia.Controls.UnitTests/Utils/SelectedItemsSyncTests.cs
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+using System;
+using System.Collections;
+using System.Collections.Generic;
+using Avalonia.Collections;
+using Avalonia.Controls.Utils;
+using Xunit;
+
+namespace Avalonia.Controls.UnitTests.Utils
+{
+    public class SelectedItemsSyncTests
+    {
+        [Fact]
+        public void Initial_Items_Are_From_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar", "baz" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Selecting_On_Model_Adds_Item()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            target.Model.Select(0);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar", "baz", "foo" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Selecting_Duplicate_On_Model_Adds_Item()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget(new[] { "foo", "bar", "baz", "foo", "bar", "baz" });
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            target.Model.Select(4);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar", "baz", "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Deselecting_On_Model_Removes_Item()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            target.Model.Deselect(1);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "baz" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Deselecting_Duplicate_On_Model_Removes_Item()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget(new[] { "foo", "bar", "baz", "foo", "bar", "baz" });
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            target.Model.Select(4);
+            target.Model.Deselect(4);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "baz", "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Reassigning_Model_Resets_Items()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            var newModel = new SelectionModel { Source = target.Model.Source };
+            newModel.Select(0);
+            newModel.Select(1);
+
+            target.SetModel(newModel);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "foo", "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Reassigning_Model_Tracks_New_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            var newModel = new SelectionModel { Source = target.Model.Source };
+            target.SetModel(newModel);
+
+            newModel.Select(0);
+            newModel.Select(1);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "foo", "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Adding_To_Items_Selects_On_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            items.Add("foo");
+
+            Assert.Equal(
+                new[] { new IndexPath(0), new IndexPath(1), new IndexPath(2) },
+                target.Model.SelectedIndices);
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar", "baz", "foo" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Removing_From_Items_Deselects_On_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            items.Remove("baz");
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { new IndexPath(1) }, target.Model.SelectedIndices);
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Replacing_Item_Updates_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            items[0] = "foo";
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { new IndexPath(0), new IndexPath(2) }, target.Model.SelectedIndices);
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "foo", "baz" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Clearing_Items_Updates_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            items.Clear();
+
+            Assert.Empty(target.Model.SelectedIndices);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Setting_Items_Updates_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var oldItems = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            var newItems = new AvaloniaList<string> { "foo", "baz" };
+            target.SetItems(newItems);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { new IndexPath(0), new IndexPath(2) }, target.Model.SelectedIndices);
+            Assert.Same(newItems, target.GetOrCreateItems());
+            Assert.NotSame(oldItems, target.GetOrCreateItems());
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "foo", "baz" }, newItems);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Setting_Items_Subscribes_To_Model()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+            var items = new AvaloniaList<string> { "foo", "baz" };
+
+            target.SetItems(items);
+            target.Model.Select(1);
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "foo", "baz", "bar" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Handles_Null_Model_Source()
+        {
+            var model = new SelectionModel();
+            model.Select(1);
+
+            var target = new SelectedItemsSync(model);
+            var items = target.GetOrCreateItems();
+
+            Assert.Empty(items);
+
+            model.Select(2);
+            model.Source = new[] { "foo", "bar", "baz" };
+
+            Assert.Equal(new[] { "bar", "baz" }, items);
+        }
+
+        [Fact]
+        public void Does_Not_Accept_Fixed_Size_Items()
+        {
+            var target = CreateTarget();
+
+            Assert.Throws<NotSupportedException>(() =>
+                target.SetItems(new[] { "foo", "bar", "baz" }));
+        }
+
+        private static SelectedItemsSync CreateTarget(
+            IEnumerable<string> items = null)
+        {
+            items ??= new[] { "foo", "bar", "baz" };
+
+            var model = new SelectionModel { Source = items };
+            model.SelectRange(new IndexPath(1), new IndexPath(2));
+
+            var target = new SelectedItemsSync(model);
+            return target;
+        }
+    }
+}